Encouragement Nugget - Evaluating Relationships!
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I was asked a very good question about friends:
Have you ever found that you have friends in your life, but realize that you have outgrown them? If so, how did you deal with that?
Maybe you’ve had this question also. As you’re looking at 2019 and making goals, know that your relationships are important. I hope this answer helps you.
When common interests change the relationship can naturally change - we spend less time together, make less of an effort to be together, don't talk as much, etc. It can die a slow death, so to speak. My husband says it this way, "You're still my friend you're just my different friend." That truly explains it.
When I got married, and experienced other life events (being ordained, becoming a Pastor, etc.), my friendship circle changed. Sometimes life events causes those changes naturally. Sometimes the Holy Spirit causes the changes, when you listen and cooperate with Him.
You have to prune, just like He does. You have to remember that everyone isn't intended to be a part of your entire journey, but many are. You have to recognize seasons, who are a part of them, and what they are teaching us. Your relationships should be built on:
"As iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens [and influences] another [through discussion]." (Proverbs 27:17 AMPC)
I'm not saying people are expendable based on what they can do for us. What I am saying is, relationships require agreement. Dark and light cannot exist together. Also, people matter. Just because a relationship changes your love and concern for them should not.
This is some of the criteria we use when evaluating our inner circle:
"Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?" (Amos 3:3 NLT)
"And if a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand." (Mark 3:25 NKJV)
I'm not saying you need to be carbon copies but you must have agreement on what's important in life. Your inner circle should sharpen you, challenge you to be better, not cause you to stumble and fall. Plants are pruned to keep them healthy and to help them to continue to grow. Relationships need that same attention for the same reasons.
Be Encouraged! ❤
Leisa Wilkins Ministries
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